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Abuse in Queenstown

August 12 2019 by Jane Guy

New Zealand has the highest rates of Family Harm in the western world. New Zealand has the highest rates of child abuse. New Zealand has 38 arrests for strangulation before the courts each week. We are failing our Tamariki. Family violence costs the government millions of dollars in lost revenue, services to support and heal, lengthy court delays, traumatised children and adults trying to keep themselves safe. We don’t talk about it, we don’t ask our friends why they communicate with their partners in a certain way, or get involved when our neighbours smash and shout in their homes late at night.

We can all be responsible for what is happening in our communities and here at Jigsaw Central Lakes we have been working for years educating and training different sectors around what it is we can all do to help, support and ultimately stop this. Views that we hold about each other need to change, values need to be addressed, conversations need to be had.

Jigsaw has just entered into its 25th year of working in family and sexual harm and we will continue to work with families, young people, children, men, women. All who share common bonds; they are living with or have experienced some form of abuse or violence or they are or have perpetrated violence. All working it out, all navigating their life’s experiences. It is not ‘them’ or ‘those people’ it every day people who are your friends, your family, your children, your work colleagues.

Our rates of sexual violence in Queenstown have alarmingly shot up over the past couple of years. More and more people come forward to bravely tell their story. This is not about what someone is wearing, or how much they’ve had to drink, this is about the way we are taught to view another human being. What consent means. Why we need to have those hard conversations with our friends about how they talk about women as chattels, how men need to “suck it up” or children don’t hear that stuff because they were asleep.

Jigsaw will continue to support anyone who needs to talk about what is or has happened for them in a confidential, safe and supportive environment. We also provide programmes for those who are struggling with their own violence or feel that they want to address how their previous relationships have impacted on the life they have today. To support people around legal processes or just start to walk alongside someone coming to terms with something they were not aware was part of their life. The cycle can be broken.
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Jigsaw editorial by Jane Guy

- Jane Guy
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    It starts with how we bring up children...NZ is a VERY violent society, and children are actively encouraged to be staunch and violent. Take for example Kapa Haka and the haka itself.....extremely violent, and children aged under 5 years old are performing it, and are encouraged to do all the violent actions with great gusto.....

    Posted 15/08/2019 1:14pm (10 months ago)

  • Your Name Here

    You can blame the Haka you can blame video games and you can blame Hollywood movies if you want but the underlying issue remains: New Zealand has a culture of bullying and the population seems to be proud of it.

    You see it in kiwi homes you see it in the schools you see it in the workplace and more disturbingly you see it in the growing suicide rates - which everybody seems concerned about but no one funds a study to determine if correlation means causation maybe because they’re afraid of what that would say about the local culture.

    Something needs to be done and as someone looking with a different perspective I’d say the government should start a nationwide campaign against bullying/abuse. That would certainly have a deep positive impact in the number of suicide and abuse all over the country.

    Posted 31/08/2019 10:56am (9 months ago)

  • Your Name Here

    So I made a mistake at work and got told off - kiwi style:
    -if I ever see you doing that again I’ll cut you cock out!
    -sorry mate I didn’t know
    -it’s your cock so just don’t do it or I’ll cut you cock out!
    -I saw other people doing the same so I thought that’s the way to do it sorry.
    -I don’t care if I catch you doing it again I’ll cut your cock out!
    -no you won’t! I already said it was a mistake and also said it won’t happen again so tone down!
    And he looked at me like he couldn’t believe a migrant was talking back at him... then said I have an attitude problem - which is what they always say when confronted apparently (no I don’t take shit from no one so take your shit and dump it elsewhere!)

    And THAT’S the southern kiwi culture of abuse - at least at the Queenstown Lakes region anyway...

    Posted 05/09/2019 10:14am (9 months ago)